I say, "Enjoy all of it, even the stressful things, because you'll never have that time with them again." What people say is true: You should live in the present. I tell it to my friends who are having babies. Since that night, I say to myself at least once a day: "This is just a moment it's not the rest of your life." I say it to my niece, who's 19 and isn't sure what she wants to do with her life when she's 30, she'll wish she had just enjoyed being 19. I became cognizant of that the night I sat there, tired, holding my crying baby: "Before I can blink an eye, he's going to be 14 and not letting me into his room!" My mother's saying put things in perspective for me in a remarkable way, because it made me realize that all moments pass quickly, the good ones as well as the bad. We're always being reminded to stay in the present moment, but when that present moment is a stressful one, you think it's going to last forever. I'll be in the middle of a scene at work and think, "Oh my God, I didn't tell the nanny she needs to come early tomorrow!" I constantly have to reel myself in because I'm a doer, and I'm always thinking about what's next on my list. But I got through the day.Īt any given moment, we're usually thinking about what has happened in the past or what's going to happen in the future. Was I tired when I went to work after three hours of sleep? Sure. As I held Kieran, I thought, "What's the worst that can happen? So I'll have bags under my eyes that's what makeup people are for." As I relaxed, so did the baby, and at last I could put him down and go back to bed. It was so poignant, because I got it in one second. Then you become a parent yourself and you think, "Ohhhh, so that's what she meant." I never really understood what she was talking about until that night. When you're young, you tend not to listen to your parents. And just then, I heard my mother's voice in my head saying what she'd always told me: "Honey, this is only a moment it's not the rest of your life." I worked myself into a complete state of anxiety about how I wasn't going to get enough sleep, how I was going to be late for work, how I'd be tired when I got there.all of which only made things worse.
I didn't know what was wrong with him-maybe gas pains-but whatever it was, this baby was not happy. One night Kieran woke up at 2 my husband was away, and I had a 6 A.M. And when you're tired, your emotional self sings the loudest, so you don't always think clearly. In my business, we work 17, 18 hours a day, and I was exhausted. I went back to work last summer when my son, Kieran, was 5 1/2 months old. It took an exhausting night, complete with crying baby, for the actress to understand in an instant what her mother had been telling her for decades.
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